Sunday, April 1, 2012

How To Deal With Introverts. How I Deal With Being Introverted.

First off, I want to say that I have become addicted to blogging. I am now posting more than once a day. I am fine with it. I hope you are too. Maybe I'm making up for all those bloggers out there who don't post everyday? Haha. Probably not.

I came across this today. I am an introvert and this really spoke to me...

I decided to take each of these numbers and talk about how they play out in my life. I am fascinated with psychology and if I could spend time just studying the differences and behaviors of extroverts and introverts, I'd be thrilled.

1. I need some serious down time each day. (I'm talking 3+ hours a day). During this time, I want to sit in a room by myself. I don't want you to come in and ask me if I'm okay and why I'm hanging out alone. I don't want you to text me. I don't want you to ask me questions. I just want to be alone. Usually, I don't push this on people. I just wait until everyone around me is asleep and then I get my privacy. This explains why some days I'm up to 2 or 3 in the morning.

2. Please don't embarrass in public. I will be pissed off. I won't say it to you in public. I'll most likely get really quiet in the hopes that I don't draw anymore attention to myself. Then I'll play the situation over and over again my head during my daily downtime and pick apart the details of what I should've done differently so I won't get embarrassed like that again.

3. I am open to new situations. I am not afraid to do new things. I just ask that if I am going to do something new, you do it first. I want to watch others and catch on a little bit before I join in.

4. I am processor. I like to listen to people talk. I like to think about what people say and then I like to think about how my opinions and feelings play into what those people have said. I love to have conversations and I love to answer questions, I just need more than a few seconds to prepare my answer. I feel like my friends have a good handle on this and they just give me the time I need. I'm grateful for them.

5. I'm not a big talker, but on occasion, I have something to say. I can get really good at ranting/overwhelming people with words. I just ask that you listen to everything I have to say. I do want your input, but if you interrupt me, I'll mostly get lost in my thoughts and I'll just be done talking. I'm not trying to be pushy when I do this. I'm just trying to get all of the thoughts out that I've been thinking of for SO LONG and I don't want to miss anything.

6. I'm okay with change. I really am. But if possible, I love to know that it's coming. It's something as simple as, "Hey Kayla, instead of going to the store later, we're going to see a movie instead." Don't spring that kind of choice on me. I've already prepared myself for the store scene. It may sound silly, but it really does affect how the rest of my day will go. Don't take me somewhere as a surprise. It won't be fun for either of us.

7. I love this! Sometimes, I'm into whatever I'm doing. I don't want you to burst into wherever I am and say, "We have to go now!" I will freak out a little on the inside. I am pretty good at combating this myself. I'm the type of the person that will ask you at exactly what time we are going to do something. That way, I can prepare myself and be ready at exactly that time. Now please don't go and mess it up by being late!

8. I understand that I will make mistakes. I understand that I need to be corrected. You don't have to make it public. I hate those teachers that are like "Kayla got the answer to this problem wrong, let's put it on the board and see if we can see where she made the mistake." I will never learn how to solve any problem like that one ever again. It's scarring.

9. I like this one too. Sometimes I like to learn new things. I don't like to learn new things in a big group of people. I wouldn't survive in a pottery class, or a soccer team, or big music lesson. I need one person to sit next to me and tell me what to do next.

10. Yep. That's pretty much it. I have two best friends who I tell everything too.

11. I'm happy with my two best friends. They are working out great. I don't need more. Don't tell me that I do.

12. I am completely happy with my introverted self. I've mastered my working with people to nap time ratio. I'm happy with how I express myself. I'm okay with being the person at the party who hangs out in a small group by the wall. If I'm happy with it, why aren't you? 


  1. I love this list because I'm exactly the same way :)

    1. I think a lot of people that keep blogs are introverts. It's easier to talk through written word than through spoken word.

  2. I love this, it's so me :) Thanks for sharing!! I'm glad to know that I'm not the only one who prefers alone time and over analyzes embarrassing situations.

    1. The more people that comment, the more I think that everyone who blogs is an introvert. Haha. You are not alone!